8 Steps to Unshakeable Confidence
By Dr Jill Ammon-Wexler
Pioneer Brain/Mind Researcher
© 2006 All Rights Reserved

It’s obvious that confidence is an essential key to true happiness and inner fulfillment. It’s the very foundation of success -- a vital ingredient for any personal, professional or business achievement.

Confidence is essential to living a successful, satisfied life. Without it you will never attempt to do what you really want to do in your life. It allows you to move through temporary discouragement, and try again.

What is confidence? The answer to this question can vary, but most people agree on the outward signs of confidence: The ability to express oneself in front of other people, the willingness to try something new, and the ability take action in spite of what others may say to do.

According to Webster's dictionary, confidence is “Having no uncertainty about one's abilities.” This sums it up well.

But have you ever wondered why some people seem totally confident, while others are in almost total lack?

It’s true that some people are naturally extroverted -- naturally bold and outgoing. Others seem to be more naturally introverted, and tend to be more caution in life. But the fact is … extroverts are not always self-confident, and introverts do not necessarily lack confidence.

Both extroverts and introverts can have unwavering certainty about their own abilities – the most basic sign of confidence.

Actually - no one is born confident. Confidence is built through life experience, and especially the feedback you receive as a youngster about your experiences. If you receive (and collect) a lifetime of negative believes about your own abilities, then you will have low self confidence.

Whatever you believe to be true is the truth. If you do not believe in your own self and your abilities – that belief becomes your own internal truth. Remember Webster's definition of confidence: “having no uncertainty about one's abilities.” Uncertainty equals low self-confidence. It’s that simple.

If you lack confidence, a good personal mission would be to discover your own unique personal strengths. We all have them, and YOU are no exception. The truth is, none of us ever reaches our maximum capacity. At its best, life is an on-going process of learning and expansion.

Here are 8 confidence-building actions that can immediately make a huge difference in your confidence.

1. Gain some new skills
Building some new personal or career skills will always strengthen your confidence. What would you like to improve? If you would like to speak before others with more confidence, consider joining a Toast Master’s group. Take action and reach out to expand yourself.

2. Recognize your own successes
Nothing builds confidence like success, but too many of us fail to appreciate and recognize our own successes. You know how you feel when someone else compliments you for something you’ve done well. Make it a point to personally recognize your own successes, no matter how small they may seem.

3. Believe in your potential
You may not today be the person you wish to be – but believing in your potential will help you move in that direction. If you want to achieve something notable in your life, you absolutely must believe in your own potential. Just take it on faith at first, and seek out your personal purpose for living.

4. Learn from your setbacks
Everyone experiences disappointments and set backs, and it’s just human to become discouraged at times. But you can use setbacks as positive experiences if you view them as learning experiences. Meet your challenges head on, and focus on your intended outcome - not on the obstacles.

5. Get some support
Turn to experts in the areas where you want to build more confidence. You can find expertise in books, ezines, articles, courses, videos, seminars, or even lectures. If you’re really serious, get a professional coach to hold you accountable for taking the necessary actions to achieve your goals.

6. Show confidence in others
Just as like attracts like, confidence also attracts confidence. The more confidence you show in others, the more confidence they will show in you. The more recognition you give others, the more confidence-building recognition you will receive.

7. Act as if
Acting “as if” is one of the most powerful life-changing tools known to mankind. Since your unconscious mind cannot tell the difference between what is “real” and what is “acted” – the more confident you act, the more convinced your powerful subconscious mind will become that you ARE confident. See yourself living with courage and strong conviction.

8. Expect to be confident
Expectation has often been called “faith in action.” Expect that you will act confident, and your mind will produce the actions you expect. Expect to be confident, and you will truly become confident.

A basic key to developing unshakable confidence is to know yourself – your TRUE self. If unshakable confidence is your goal, you MUST check out the author's “Smash your Limits” ecourse. It has the proven ability to change your life – forever. Click Here.

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